We’d be quite the assholes if we never learnt from our mistakes.
I’ve come to realise a few things throughout the years. In general, if I see a friend in need.. then well, I’d like to extend my hand out to help them.
Ever heard that little corny quote:
a friend in need is a friend indeed.
It sounds funny, and can be interpreted in two ways [source]:
1. If someone needs help, then they will become friendly in order to obtain it.
2. If someone helps you when you are in need, then they are a true friend.
Obviously I’d like to interpret it as the latter.
Problem is.. (something I need to work on obviously) that sometimes the hand extension is not always welcomed. Not so much not welcomed, just.. misunderstood or perhaps just not needed.
It’s almost second nature for me to help, but a lot times I don’t realise the negative implications to which my helping actions may present..
It’s a bit scary having to second guess helping someone – it should just be whether you want to help them or not shouldn’t it? Like, as someone who is helping a friend or anyone, they should almost be like a third person.
Yet, when I get too involved I seem to get myself into a bit of trouble. It’s.. I don’t know, discouraging sometimes, but I try not to let it affect me too much. I want to be a good friend, I do. I just need to realise where I’m messing things up.
When is it enough?
Misunderstanding is almost as bad as being accused. But that’s no excuses for the mistakes I made.
I genuinely messed up, I will apologise, because my intentions for helping someone is to well.. help them. That means any sort of action or whatever related to the problem area, is to try help it. If one method doesn’t seem to work, you’d try another right? I wouldn’t give up on a problem like that.
But once again, I managed to screw up. So I’m sorry. But it’s a learning process it is – you know who you are, and you know what my main goal in my life is.
So.. I’ll just take this as a lesson well learnt, and make sure I don’t make the same mistake again.